How To Afford What You Want In Life

I can't afford it. I can't go vegan. I can't commit that amount of time. I can't start my own business right now.

You know where this is going...

Those are lies, all lies. The way we speak about our lives is more important than you might think. People understand this when it comes to saying "I would", "I could", or "I should". But let's chat about the distinction between "I can't", "I don't want to", and "I'm unwilling to".

A lot of us walk around saying we can't do things and I'm going to assert that you can...you just don't want to OR you can but you're unwilling to. Willing and wanting is interesting. I like to think of it in gym terms. I'd be lying if I said that I wake up every morning and want to go to the gym. It would be truthful if I said that I wake up willing to go to the gym (four days a week, to be exact). I go despite my feelings and excuses for better uses of my time.

I'm sure many of you relate to this when it comes to your work. You might not want to go but you are willing to and so you show up every day and get to work.

I spent a year and then some traveling to DC from NJ for my coach training when there was a program just next door in NYC. Believe me, it would have been easy to say that I couldn't commit to DC or that I couldn't afford the travel. The truth of the matter was that it was ALL POSSIBLE. Doing it was possible AND I was willing because I saw something in it for myself.

Consider that if you're saying you can't do something, that you really just don't want to or are unwilling to. Just be real about it, it's totally cool.

No matter what, things are either possible or impossible in life. You get to say what is or isn't. Know that most things in life are possible, in fact. They just come with obstacles that you don't want to deal with or are unwilling to deal with. Please own that you are capable of so much more than you think you are. And that is all I have to say on this topic for now.

What's your "I don't want to"/ "I'm unwilling to" disguised as an "I can't"? And how do you say it's going to go from here?