Suffering Is Easier Than The Good Life

It's easier to suffer than to have a good life. That's a puzzling thing to say but hear me out.

I recently had a breakthrough in my coaching practice. I took on more awesome human beings to coach and the process to get there was one of exhilaration, support, tears, and courage. I'm coming off the high and I'm realizing that I'm really scared. It's not because I think I'm a bad coach, I know my worth now.

I'm scared because I've got a great thing that would be heartbreaking to lose.

That's why suffering is easier than having a good life. Because in suffering, there's nothing to lose. Suffering is just a familiar feeling we've experienced for some time now and inviting amazing things into our lives would put us at risk of losing something that matters to us.

But isn't that the beautiful thing about life? That we get to experience it all? Loss and birth, sadness and happiness, loneliness and belonging. It's cliche, (cliches are what they are for a reason) but it's those disempowering experiences that make the empowering ones so wholesome.

It's a good sign that I'm scared. It means I'm playing a bigger game...a game where the stakes are high enough for me to commit my heart to them. Fear can either cause you to expand or shrink. This past weekend, I chose to expand. And holy sh*t, I'm proud of myself for that bold choice.

Please don't shy away from what scares you. Please don't say "no" when no really means "yes but the thought of losing ____ would be too much to handle".

All those plans, hopes, and dreams you've been putting off because you're scared...say yes to them. Right now. Even if yes simply means writing your goal on a piece of paper or speaking it aloud. It's all so scary because it's all so worth it.

And I want you to know that you CAN handle it. You will. You're not fragile and you're not incapable of picking yourself up after the tenth fall. In fact, fall more. All you're doing is expanding the experiences you can be with in life. I can say from experience that expansion is an absolute riot. Especially if it's done within a community of people you love who see greatness in you. If you're one to take on life alone, I suggest you read my last post. That's especially for you.

Go say yes more. To you, to your passions, to an extraordinary life.