Right And Wrong

Something that really grinds my gears is the concept of right and wrong. I acknowledge that it's beneficial in certain instances like knowing that it’s wrong to commit a violent act, it’s right to be loving, etc. But it comes with a load of judgment. It gives us a reason to shame ourselves and others when we’re not in the right..which I tend to question a lot. Who’s to say what is right and wrong, especially in the context of how we choose to live our lives? Maybe living out of a van suits me. Why am I made to feel wrong for entertaining the idea? Because someone somewhere said it was shameful and we all agreed?

Imagine a world where there was no right and wrong, I see a lot more freedom. A lot more room to experience things freely without hesitation. A lot more depth to our lives.

The right vs wrong trap happens in really small ways too. I work with an employee who is incredibly efficient and knows what he’s doing. When we work together, he’ll take over a task that I was doing or he’ll jokingly tell me that I messed up. It makes me feel like he’s watching me, waiting for me to mess up. And honestly, I do. Not because I’m bad at my job but because I feel this extra pressure not to fuck up. It’s the classic my way or the highway. You should do it this way because this is the right way. I think we all have a bit of this in us.

When someone chooses differently we have to take a second to remind ourselves that our automatic isn’t everyone else’s. I want that to be the case for the way we choose to live our lives. Maybe I want to freelance and maybe you want a 9-5. Nothing is wrong with either choice.

In ways, “ordinary” life is frowned upon. I’ve said it’s boring and dull, I know a number of others that would agree they’ve held the same judgement. That going to school, finding a job, living a life of same shit different day is just excruciating. And honestly, I'm committed to getting to the points where I don't hold any judgment. Or at least have the awareness to step away from the judgement and say hey, if that person is GENUINELY fulfilled in living that life, why hate on it? Instead of talking badly about the lives that others choose to live maybe taking action on the life that I am committed to living would be a more empowered way to go.